My life and training have taught me the repeated lesson of self- compassion. The most important relationship you will have is with yourself.
I stopped my self-torment by the suggestion that I talk to myself like I would to a friend. When my
friends are hurt, happy, confused, or in need, I listen and respond compassionately. Becoming
mindful of the soundtrack of your life opens the door to acceptance and self-compassion. In all my
coaching there is an element of self-reflection and training to manage the self-talk.
Imagine yourself holding all the responsibility for a situation that has you concerned. Now take one
step back and imagine the ring of responsibility widening. What other factors are at play in the
situation? Now take another step and another as you widen the ring of responsibility. Continue until
the heaviness of the situation disappears. Over bearing criticism can be shaken a bit with this
technique. While I don’t advocate avoiding our portion of any situation we often take far more of the
blame and needless self-judgment. Goalies wouldn’t play a season of win and losses unless they
knew it is a team sport and other plays, penalties, opportunities all have an impact in the game
outcome. Same with your life circumstances.
Make a point to stop yourself and hear the soundtrack of your mind. Notice the tone and the focus
of your thoughts. Become aware of your self-talk. Befriend yourself. Work toward more selfcompassion
by stepping (mentally) out of the center to a wider circle.
Looking at all of today with self-love and understanding makes for a happy soul. You are not the
sum of the mistakes you make but alive today to be human and accepting the many curves life
presents on the journey.
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